Friendship according to Hlogi O'

the first day i came in this world i made a friend whom till this day forth is still alive and i love her very much. this friend i speak of is my mother whom brought me into this world and when i started recognizing faces i was able to spot my second friend whom too i loved dearly and he departed from this earth too early according to me because i was still getting to know him better and he was a friend to most of his peers. with the way they loved being around him just told me then that he was something worthy being with rather than spend a day without him.

So as i was progressing in my age i started being enrolled into elementary schools,first grade and high schools i started making friends or as i would call them companions whom i relied upon from time to time for moral support.because life is progressive some people never became friends with me mainly because to befriend Hlogi is not that easy and me talking to you does not make you my friend is just that you happened to exist in  my life for that time or moment.

In this topic i could write many pages but i wont,because i just want to make it clear to people that we don't just befriend people because they accessible at that moment and they can listen better to your problems when you lash out."it is said there is no person who can listen to any dilemma than a stranger" but that does not make them your friend.

i have learned through personal experiences that there are good and awesome friends out there with some guidance of the higher power one can have the friends from heavens. there is different types of friendships out there that represent different kind of meanings to people's lives and so on.
        1. Parasitism relation- this class i think is the most lethal friendship one can say they have been in for some time before you found the friend or friends you have now in your life. they only take and never gives back in the same manner you have given and i think this sometimes i display to other people and know how unsatisfying it is, and i try too be aware of it,so that i don't get people who have no faith in me,because i am for "do unto others what thy shalt do to thou" type of person.they don't care for you all they want  is to just eat you alive because you have  something they can never have even if they go to Hell and back, that's a good heart and stressless life.because they don't know that is the feeling of affluence makes you to be awesome they think that it's the money that you have or nice cars you drive.
        2. Commensalism relation- in this relation we see that one consider me their friend but to me they are just my peer whom i happen to speak to because we belong to the same denomination, Varsity, Group and etc. in other words their friendship have no effect on me and this happens to everyone where people feel at ease when you are there and you just don't understand why this person is being like that.the most interesting part is that people every where this person goes they know you as their friends while you don't perceive them that way.
       3. Mutualism relation- this is what everyone wish for but they never get because the only people they have are backstabbers, conniving people and parasites, who just want to help themselves and get access to resources that one has all the time until when you need them and they are not there for that encouragement they gave during their time of need.this friendship is the one i am happily sailing in because i can say i have found my best friends.  

Now obviously in life as you move from places to places you meet new people whom i love to call your life assistance group(LAG/angels), these people makes life worth living for the time you are there in that place.and you move from that place to another one far away because you find it hard the time you get there that you stay in contact with those that were really close with and at the end you have one or two people from the group that you are still in contact with. those now are called friends whom you sometimes have coffee and a movie with them because they represent a great deal of importance to you and now this is no longer personal.at this level its spiritual because you need them near you every time when you make life decisions because they know you spiritually now.so they would know when you are making bad decisions. so at that time you can get the best advises your own uncle can't give mainly because they know the true you.

After i sailed through life academically getting into tertiary i went through phases that i didn't understand made  worst and sometimes life emergent decision while i thought i had a team of care service(friends) in my life at that point in time.and i fell to the point were no one would want to be around you,before i can really get some serious ass-kicking lessons from life higher power intervened and guided me to the place where i don't have to beg for an advise it come before i can ask for it and that place is church.so from this you can make a decision that will define the status-quo of your friendships and this goes for your life partners as well because they have to be your life friend in order to be your life partner.

Life can never be easy without LAG to help you be the best you can be in your life and the other thing is that once in  a while one needs support system and this one is a free one because you can always dump your problem with them and you know that some kind of a stimulus will be triggered from them which shows:
Love(spiritual)
Loyalty
Care
Compassion
Sympathy and empathy
Encouragement
Faithfulness
Charity
Passion
,because you have done more in their lives which they can't ever say thank you so its never enough or weigh the same with what you did for them.

Thoughts of wisdom!

I don't know how one become the greatest in something they love so much and still remain humbled to people that don't give a sock about him.as i walk every day in my shoes i experience trouble in understanding the youth of today, because they don't understand a bigger picture of their lives because they want to live for now, which is good but is there a structure that can hold the weight of your thought in the midnight hour when your alone thinking what you mean to this world that you are living in and to yourself?

I believe that one should be able to see what their life is going to unfold in few days, months, years or so. mainly because they are driving their own lives for that matter.most don't understand my way of living because they are not me and only know that because it is how i chose to live and what makes me the man i am today it took a serious mentoring from people whom have patience and love for life.

I also believe that everyone have something in their lives that makes them become movers and shakers of what they like in their lives.i was taught by some elder of mine that in life in order for one to really live the life they always wanted, they must first acknowledge that they have different lives that requires different attentions.Like for instance i am a very spiritual man and love my God to an extent where i pray on everything i have in my life,so when i am in the mist of my spiritual brothers and sisters i know what is expected of me and when i am handling my lovely things that does not involve any spirituality in them i give them different attention.and this to me is wisdom which we as youth any where in the world needs,to level ourselves to!

RESPECT YOURSELF!
ACKNOWLEDGE THAT YOUR DIFFERENT!
LOVE AND BE HAPPY EVERYDAY!
SING TO CALM OR CENTER YOURSELF!
AND LIVE! FOR LIVE IS YOUR PURPOSE.